tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post2818042513483967514..comments2023-08-20T01:05:20.195-07:00Comments on THREE BIRDS: Fear:Chelseahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16624349621537848131noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-70942173697215068482010-12-08T13:11:39.637-08:002010-12-08T13:11:39.637-08:00I really love this post, cause its like I could ha...I really love this post, cause its like I could have wrote it. thanks for the remind, our fears cripple us and we mustn't let them.{andthisiswhatshesaid}https://www.blogger.com/profile/03904678919647798329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-89366288123786808002010-12-07T18:32:21.258-08:002010-12-07T18:32:21.258-08:00ah, fear. i think i've feared every. single. o...ah, fear. i think i've feared every. single. one of those. too. i was at a point last year where it paralyzed me for sure. couldn't sleep. couldn't live. & you're right, when you truly give it to jesus, there is freedom! when i'm not in God's word, it creeps back in. but this year, i prayed for peace & God gave it to me! i've slept almost every night without a pill for almost a whole YEAR! thank you for the reminder that fear=lies + God=peace. haha, like a silly bumper sticker.<br /><br />you, my dear, are a breath of fresh air.molly june.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14224067122187105466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-2314128156236581252010-12-07T12:23:35.935-08:002010-12-07T12:23:35.935-08:00Awwww. Keri, NO, YOU stop being SO gorgeous! <...Awwww. Keri, NO, YOU stop being SO gorgeous! <3 <br /><br />You're too sweet. Thank you dear for the complement.Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16624349621537848131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-73659139167652105252010-12-07T12:01:12.521-08:002010-12-07T12:01:12.521-08:00this has nothing to do with fears....
but you cou...this has nothing to do with fears....<br /><br />but you could be any cuter?!! please A)stop being so gorgeous or B)send me your hammy downs when you're finished with them. <br /><br />much love,<br />keriKerihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17217805510871527948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-81247789497768292342010-12-05T16:11:26.710-08:002010-12-05T16:11:26.710-08:00Very well written Lar. What convicting thoughts. I...Very well written Lar. What convicting thoughts. I totally feel convicted that I too strive and am sometimes driven by fear-head barely above water half the time and then waiting for those moments of rest like weekends. Almost "indulging" in the weekends.... coveting them and not wanting them to end. <br /><br />Thank you for your words of wisdom. This is good for my soul. "I am learning that all I have is the hope that jesus is who is claims he is and I can trust him." I like what you said there too.Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16624349621537848131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-8097154132523283212010-12-05T15:04:28.845-08:002010-12-05T15:04:28.845-08:00I found this interesting and true when it comes to...I found this interesting and true when it comes to my reasons for fear and thought I would share:<br /><br />Fatherless <br />You are the son/daughter of a kind, strong, and engaged Father, a Father wise enough to guide you in the Way, generous enough to provide for your journey, offering to walk with you every step.<br /><br />This is perhaps the hardest thing for us to believe-really believe, down deep in our hearts, so that it changes us forever, changes the way we approach each day.<br /><br />I believe this is the core issue of our shared dilemma. We just don't believe it. Our core assumptions about the world boil down to this: We are on our own to make life work. We are not watched over. We are not cared for. When we are hit with a problem, we have to figure it out ourselves, or just take the hit. If anything good is going to come our way, we're the ones who are going to have to arrange for it. Many of us have called upon God as Father, but, frankly, he doesn't seem to have heard. We're not sure why. Maybe we didn't do it right. Maybe he's about more important matters. Whatever the reason, our experience of this world has framed our approach to life. We believe we are fatherless.<br /><br />Whatever life has taught us, and though we may not have put it into these exact words, we feel that we are alone. Simply look at the way men live. If I were to give an honest assessment of my life for the past thirty years, I'd have to confess the bulk of it as Striving and Indulging. Pushing myself hard to excel, taking on the battles that come to me with determination but also with a fear-based drivenness, believing deep down inside that there is no one I can trust to come through for me. Striving. And then, arranging for little pleasures along the way to help ease the pain of the drivenness and loneliness. Dinners out, adventure gear. Indulging. A fatherless way to live.larhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15024954633647869578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-41967674064271795622010-12-05T14:59:27.376-08:002010-12-05T14:59:27.376-08:00since everyone else is commenting, I will too. my ...since everyone else is commenting, I will too. my husband is away this weekend and I am happy to say that I spent my first night alone two nights ago and it went well. of course I checked every door and window and slept with a light on in the hall and my cell right next to my hands (under the blanket of course so that if the intruder came into my room I could pretend to still be asleep while some how blindly dialing 911 like I was flippin macgyver or something). but for me this is progress. I am learning that all I have is the hope that jesus is who is claims he is and I can trust him. me being afraid to travel or to sleep or to even love someone isn't going to keep me safe. I get tired of the weight of fear, the lost oppurtunities, the hiding, the shame. identifying the root of some of it has helped tons. for example, as a child I never felt protected by my parents and was put in compromising positions a lot so I'm not surprised that I always feel vulnerable and like my back is wide open for attack.thankfully I have an amazing community of people and have learned a lot about the reality of who my enemy is and how to fight in the battle for truth and for freedom. I pray that you find your way to rest and peace. okay, maybe that was more helpful for me than anyone. sorry. done.larhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15024954633647869578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-890796747766309192010-12-05T07:15:36.041-08:002010-12-05T07:15:36.041-08:00Thank you Jenny. I totally agree that fear is a li...Thank you Jenny. I totally agree that fear is a lie just like you expressed. It makes us not Trust Jesus and not walk in freedom-but be paralyzed. <br /><br />She died 5 years ago. It's a shame that suicide is becoming such an epidemic. I really don't understand it. I feel like since I've known the Lord, knowing that he's taken me through really terrible situations and I was never alone through even my worst days, I know that he is a refuge from the storms of this life and I've always taken comfort in that. I couldn't imagine feeling so alone that I could harm myself or those around me like that. Plus, life is so short anyway. There are so many people battling cancer and disease who are fighting to live, It makes it hard for me to understand those trying to die. <br /><br />I agree Jenny that we have to trust God with everything in our lives because he controls everything, whether good or bad. That's really good. Thanks for sharing.Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16624349621537848131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-60432136554085316412010-12-05T06:49:22.932-08:002010-12-05T06:49:22.932-08:00I've always been a carefree, fun-loving, adven...I've always been a carefree, fun-loving, adventerous person, and I never understood people that let fear control them...until last year. All of a sudden, I was bombarded with complete lies from the enemy and I let those lies turn to fears turn to anxiety turn to panic...I've been fighting anxiety off and on ever since. It's WAY better now than it was this summer, but I never would have imagined how crazy anxiety can make you and how much you feel like you might lose it. I agree with everything people have posted...you have to reject fear in the name of Jesus and you have to choose to trust that He is in control of everything, whether good or bad. That has helped me a ton. If I let the thoughts run wild, they just snowball out of control. By the way, I never knew that about your sister, Chelsea. When did that happen? I am so sorry.Jenny Van't Landhttp://www.madameeclectic.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-67979704130303807942010-12-04T13:59:21.351-08:002010-12-04T13:59:21.351-08:00Bahahaha. Tracy. You're too cute. You make me ...Bahahaha. Tracy. You're too cute. You make me laugh just imagining you with the lighter and hair spray. <br /><br />ps, glad we got to have a good long chat session today. It was nice to talk and get caught up on eachothers lives. I always appreciate your perspective on life.Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16624349621537848131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-48408850828659329332010-12-04T13:46:36.268-08:002010-12-04T13:46:36.268-08:00We all have fears, it's human nature. I'm ...We all have fears, it's human nature. I'm terrified of the dark. I don't like to be alone at night. I sleep with a lighter and hairspray next to my bed with the door locked and a bar under the door knob. It's silly, It's embarassing. But, it's me. I've been this way my whole life. I hate it but I can't "fix" it so I won't. I keep my hairspray stocked and my escape route planned.If you weren't real...I'd make you uphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06205159105487374804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-72064532700453842002010-12-04T11:04:55.339-08:002010-12-04T11:04:55.339-08:00Chelsea I love YOUR honesty. And Nina's commen...Chelsea I love YOUR honesty. And Nina's comment. And not just because she is my baby sister. The scripture in Timothy is one of my favorites and one I repeat to myself when I'm overcome with irrational fears. Because while God had not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and a sound mind (and continues to talk about not being ashamed of your testimony of Christ or afraid to share it).Saritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10094278384918808776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-73653386758412935882010-12-03T23:25:18.440-08:002010-12-03T23:25:18.440-08:00oh sister...i have fears. I know fear is not of th...oh sister...i have fears. I know fear is not of the Lord, but let me tell you..ugh. My hubby works on the iron highway so we are always alone, but we do have 4 big dogs, weapons, and Jesus on our side so amen to that. I fear dying and leaving little Jude here all alone (well he would have his dad, but my hubby would have him dressed all wrong and let him go out without a jacket in the winter). No seriously, i do fear death but only because Jude would be without me and would eventually replace me which just breaks my heart. Now, onto you saying that you fear just being a mom and never doing anything more...I have a masters degree and worked in open heart surgery for 7 years of my life. I wont say who I worked for (although one of my sons names is in the title). I was something..or someone...or whatever. I at least thought I was because I had a 6 figure income and I worked for a fortune 500 company all while being a single mom for 13 yrs. Let me tell you...now that I am a stay at home mom..this job can not be beat. A mom is the most important job on the planet. Little Conrad will remember every moment you spend with him and every moment he spends away from you. My oldest son is getting ready to turn 17 and he can recollect all our mommy-son time. Mommy-hood is the most prestigeous and wearing job which is why God bestowed it upon us as a blessing.The Woman with the issue of bloodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05333930008612938803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-46840338798356449812010-12-03T23:07:54.086-08:002010-12-03T23:07:54.086-08:00Oh my gosh. You really hit home with this post. ...Oh my gosh. You really hit home with this post. I get neurotic about checking things before I leave (I start with normal: do I have my keys? and end with: Shouldn't I just check that the stove is off once more (i.e. for the fourth time)?). I am trying to learn that checking that the curling iron is unplugged once is enough. If God wanted my house burned down, he wouldn't need a curling iron plugged in to do it. If he didn't want it burned down, it'll be fine. No that I shouldn't, ya know... be safe and all. <br />This is the first week I haven't had my mace (I left my keys, with my mace on them, at my dad's) and also the VERY first week I've been going out after dark by myself for one reason or another (doh!)<br />I'm scared of being mugged/raped/killed in the city.<br />I'm afraid of my neighbor coming home (the cops came on Monday evening and told me to call them if he showed up)<br />I'm scared of burning the house down, embarrassing myself so badly at work that I get fired or can't show my face, being single forever and ever because my standards are too high, getting fat, getting cancer, ANYTHING HAPPENING TO MY SISTERS (or any of my family).....<br />Whew.Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10767171745320881379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-34579548044843540002010-12-03T18:45:48.336-08:002010-12-03T18:45:48.336-08:00i can't do math either! no seriously. like, i&...i can't do math either! no seriously. like, i'm an idiot. i can't multiply or divide either. i use a calculator for everything and even use my fingers when i'm counting simple things.<br /><br />i'm scared that when we move to arizona that my husband is going to have so much fun with his friends that he won't really care about me anymore. or that he just won't think i'm fun. i used to resent the entire state of arizona because i associated it with everything i was jealous of. there's also this girl that used to be in his little group growing up that he kinda dated as a kid... AND I'M JEALOUS OF HER. they probably dated in middle school? but i'm so jealous of her. i got on my husband's facebook and myspace and have blocked her from them. i'm a psycho. he has no idea.Jess Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10312580946881470984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-31490502824602893652010-12-03T17:58:57.145-08:002010-12-03T17:58:57.145-08:00I am so afraid of so much it is not even funny. Th...I am so afraid of so much it is not even funny. This post made me feel okay, actually. THANK YOU. <br /><br />ps. i moved my blog... www.sarahthreads.comSarah https://www.blogger.com/profile/17534047505315475523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-50720295744049803072010-12-03T15:13:57.349-08:002010-12-03T15:13:57.349-08:00Wow, what a GOOD post. I'm so afraid of dieing...Wow, what a GOOD post. I'm so afraid of dieing, too. My grandma has been in the hospital this week -- she's sooo old and awfully frail -- and seeing her there scares me. Not because I'm afraid of her dieing, but because of the pain/uncomfortableness she's probably in. Awful.<br /><br />On a positive note, I kind of love your Erin feat. It's nice to be lighthearted and make fun of ourselves for some of our fears. (PS, if my boyfriend had an Erin, I would not be happy either!)Em-Jaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16337702395702682321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-36636877218078972152010-12-03T12:54:47.588-08:002010-12-03T12:54:47.588-08:00Nina, thanks for the comment. What wise words to l...Nina, thanks for the comment. What wise words to live by. That was awesome. I love your input. <br /><br />Jessi, that's so funny that you say this because almost my biggest advice to newly weds is to get life insurance. My step dad dies when i was young leaving my mom with 2 kids, and seeing death of a spouse at a young age, I always wanted to protect Dustin and conrad incase I die. Like, 250 thousand isnt much in the grand scheme of things, but he depends on the money I make and i depend on his income to survive and I would have to leave him stranded like that to worry about one more thing when Im gone<br /><br />Erin, You're such an encouragement to me. Thank you dear friend for those kind words. I needed that today. Love you.Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16624349621537848131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-36904926286750296982010-12-03T12:24:04.445-08:002010-12-03T12:24:04.445-08:00i LOVE this post. it is me, as well.i LOVE this post. it is me, as well.Evahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00418611859712611024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-49444108610002586512010-12-03T12:16:25.772-08:002010-12-03T12:16:25.772-08:00I feel like fear gets a really bad wrap most of th...I feel like fear gets a really bad wrap most of the time. Like it's something we are to hide and not talk about. Like if you have fears than you don't have faith in God and don't trust Him (Not true!!). <br /><br />Actually, we have fears for a reason. Altho some fears are irrational, a lot of the time we fear things that are hazardous to ourselves and our families (like being afraid that someone will break into our homes.. we should be afraid of that and be prepared for it).<br /><br />For example: if you're afraid of dying and leaving your family behind, then make sure things are in order just in case something happens. (That probably sounds so morbid, but having a husband in the military, we deal with these issues constantly). The worst things you can do are ignore your fears or let them paralyze you; you have to face them. Prepare for the worst. But live for God, not in your fear. You can be afraid of things and still have an incredible amount of faith if you are obedient to the Lord. And He will cover you and protect you. His promises are amazing!!jessi bridgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16221126485411903769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-38574552044186834272010-12-03T12:05:54.648-08:002010-12-03T12:05:54.648-08:00Chelsea, you know I can TOTALLY relate to living i...Chelsea, you know I can TOTALLY relate to living in fear. <br /><br />This is from a book that I'm reading right now...<br /><br />... It starts with Philippians 4:7 "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." And then it says... If we make the choice to pray instead of worry, we will personally experience God's peace. What a promise. In a world of chaos, problems, heartache, and anxiety, all of us need peace. And then she says... When anxieties multiply within me, my mind goes absolutely crazy with "what ifs". My heart, the cradle of my emotions, rocks wildly back and forth. God's peace is the exact prescription for my anxiety-ridden heart and mind.<br /><br />I'm really into this book I'm reading right now. It's called "Calm my Anxious Heart" by Linda Dillow. It's an amazing book... not so much about anxiety but more about being content with the life we're given and accepting God's plan for us. It's good. <br /><br />But ya, you know I can relate. I been living "in fear" for years now and I'm just learning how to trust God with (almost) everything. It's so hard to let go of the things we love the most and let God have control. <br /><br />But know that you are not alone. I have little rituals that I do too. Like I feel crazy if the girls go to bed without me kissing them and telling them that I love them. Like if I'm out and Lane puts them to bed I have to go in and kiss them and tell them that I love them no matter what time it is. <br /><br />You are awesome Chelsea. You're such a beautiful strong woman. You are an amazing mom and a great wife. God wants to do great things with you and he is using you. Thanks for sharing your heart with all of us.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10289687660575470146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-9436796193163555622010-12-03T11:43:28.821-08:002010-12-03T11:43:28.821-08:00Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you...Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not to harm you, to give you a future and a hope.<br /><br />LOVE THAT! It's so comforting!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12993698008850164418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-524173573937200352010-12-03T11:07:16.476-08:002010-12-03T11:07:16.476-08:00i've spoken in church about fear before, and i...i've spoken in church about fear before, and i just went back and read what i wrote. i especially liked this part: (a quote, not written by me)<br /><br />“Who among us can say that he or she has not felt fear? I know of no one who has been entirely spared. Some, of course, experience fear to a greater degree than do others. Some are able to rise above it quickly, but others are trapped and pulled down by it and even driven to defeat. We suffer from the fear of ridicule, the fear of failure, the fear of loneliness, the fear of ignorance. Some fear the present, some the future. Some carry the burden of sin and would give almost anything to unshackle themselves from those burdens but fear to change their lives. Let us recognize that fear comes not of God, but rather that this gnawing, destructive element comes from the adversary of truth and righteousness. Fear is the antithesis of faith. It is corrosive in its effects, even deadly.<br />“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (2 Timothy 1:6-7) These principles are the great antidotes to the fears that rob us of our strength and sometimes knock us down to defeat. They give us power.<br /><br />What power? The power of the gospel, the power of truth, the power of faith, the power of the priesthood.” -Gordon B. Hinckley (1983)christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267621237364241737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-53100515167999065372010-12-03T09:36:20.468-08:002010-12-03T09:36:20.468-08:00Sarah, I love you! I love your honesty. I think we...Sarah, I love you! I love your honesty. I think we've all had that fear of intentionally or accidentally hurting our babies. I was telling you before that after reading that brook shieds book where she talked about fantacising about throwing her baby against the wall and that her talking about that was really brave to me because I had once didn't trust myself to walk down stairs, fearing i'd drop conrad. I think it's freeing when mom's talk about their fears and how they combat them. <br /><br />I REALLY Love your honesty. Thank you for sharing. I need to see you soon friend. <br /><br />Thanks for the compliment. I've been so busy the last few days working on getting photos edited that i haven't been able to wash it FOR DAYS. So today I did and feel so much better.Chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16624349621537848131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4536350059675671064.post-76048317521512590462010-12-03T09:25:39.501-08:002010-12-03T09:25:39.501-08:00I can totally relate on almost all counts. I talke...I can totally relate on almost all counts. I talked to you already about imagining or fantasying about things I'm scared of (intentionally or accidentally hurting my baby, falling down the stairs, cutting myself with almost any and every sharp object I encounter, home invasion, rape, rape while pregnant and huge none the less, not losing the baby weight and my husband losing interest even though he tells me I'm sexy multiple times a day, stunting my baby's development because I don't know about simple things like giving him enough tummy time, and doing math in front of people and I'm not dyslexic). <br /><br />With each year I am better at letting some of this stuff go. And then I got married and started worrying about him getting in an accident while we are apart. And had a baby and worry about everything possible. Prayer helps. I pray for comfort and it always comes. I also function better while on my anti depressant (not an answer for all cases but a great blessing) and my anxiety triggers decrease enormously. <br /><br />Also, you are gorgeous. Your hair is sick.Saritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10094278384918808776noreply@blogger.com